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苦难与内心的冲突-中英对照

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苦难与内心的冲突-中英对照

 

我相信每个人都想要爱和被爱,幸福来自于面对和接受自己,允许你给予和接受爱。
 
有些人认为爱情是一种热情、饥饿、戏剧化的感觉,所有的一切都充满强烈的欲望。依我看,这是不成熟的爱:是对别人的要求,而不是对自己的付出。成熟的爱,带来幸福的爱,从内心的丰满中流出,接受、理解和温柔地对待他人。它不是要求得到服务,而是要求它服务。
 
六年前,因为急性鼻窦炎我几乎不能呼吸。我的胃总是不安、充满恶心,我难以入睡,即使我用尽所有的时间感觉。在绝望中,在治疗身体症状的医生不能减轻疼痛之后,我试过精神分析法。我很幸运找到了一个聪明、有同情心的人,他向我展示了能够信任自己和他人的意义。
 
身体上的病痛已经过去了,但除此之外,我终于开始养成了一种生活哲学。我从来没有拥有过。我曾生活过的教条和原则,我接受了毫无疑问地走过的岁月,虽然我相信这一点,因为我担心的问题。但由于无法与自己和平相处,我在大自然面前飞翔。她以生病来惩罚我,同时告诉我一切都不顺利,以防我想做点什么。
 
为了改变,我需要面对自己的帮助。对我来说,“了解你自己”并不容易。我一生都接受了这两种罪恶中的次要,逃避了自我,因为真理更危险。有一次,我以为为了生存,我不得不戴上面具,忘记下面的东西。但面具是虚假的保护,我内心永远不会被拒绝。
 
它最终赶上了,除非我能掌握我,我不得不面对恐惧、愤怒、嫉妒、憎恨、嫉妒和过分注意的这种感觉。当我意识到除了我所做的以外,我什么也做不了,我能够更喜欢自己,能够喜欢别人,而不是别人能给我什么,而是我能给他们什么。
 
圣经显示了在许多页面中轻松快乐的生活方式。它建议说:“给予比接受更有福。”那些期望最多的人往往会得到最少的回报。我原以为多了,心里充满了愤怒,因为外面的一切都无法消除我的空虚和绝望。在我面对愤怒和愤怒、空虚和绝望之前,什么也没有做,慢慢地开始懂得同情、信念、控制、平静等新感觉。我也懂得理智和思想的巧妙结合,这使我能够为自己和他人承担更多的责任,使我能够杀死过去的幽灵。
 
对我来说,为了获得更大的幸福,还有很多艰苦的工作要做。然而,我为实现这一目标所作的斗争,使幸福更为珍贵。



I believe that everyone wants to love and be loved and that happiness stems from a facing and acceptance of self that allows you to give and receive love.

Some think of love as a passionate, hungry, dramatic feeling, all consuming in intensity and desire. As I see it, this is, rather, immature love: it is a demand on others, not a giving of oneself. Mature love, the love that brings happiness, flows out of an inner fullness, and accepts, understands and is tender toward the other person. It does not ask to be served but only where it may serve.

Six years ago I could hardly breathe because of acute sinus. My stomach was always upset and full of queasiness and I had trouble sleeping, even though I felt exhausted all the time. In desperation, after doctors who treated the physical symptoms failed to ease the pain, I tried psychoanalysis. I was lucky to find a wise, compassionate man who showed me what it meant to be able to trust myself and others.

The physical ills are gone, but more than that, I have at long last started to acquire a philosophy of living. I had never possessed one. I had lived on dogma and dicta which I had accepted unquestioningly through the years, even though I believed little of it, because I feared to question. But by being unable to live naturally and at peace with myself I was flying in the face of nature. She was punishing me with illness and, at the same time, informing me all was not well just in case I wanted to do something about it.

In order to change, I needed help in facing myself. For me it was not easy to “know thyself”. All my life I had accepted the lesser of the two evils and run away from self because truth was more dangerous. Once I thought that to survive I had to put on a mask and forget what lay underneath. But masks are false protections and the inner part of me refused to go unheard forever.

It caught up eventually, and unless it was to master me I had to face such feelings as fear, anger, envy, hatred, jealousy and excessive need for attention. When I realized I could not have done anything else except what I did, I was able to like myself more and be able to like others not for what they could give me but for what I could give to them.

The Bible shows the way to easy, happy living in many of its pages. It advises, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Those who expect the most are apt to receive the least. I had expected much and was filled with fury because nothing in the outside world relieved my emptiness and despair. Nothing did, either, until I could face the anger and fury, the emptiness and despair, and slowly start to know such new feelings as compassion, conviction, control, calm. I learned, too, of reason—that judicious combination of thought and feeling that enables me to take more responsibility for myself and others, that allows me to slay the ghosts of the past.

For me there is much hard work ahead to achieve greater happiness. Yet, the very struggle I have put into achieving a measure of it makes happiness that much more dear.


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