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不要效仿,做独一无二的自己

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If you want to drain your mental energy, there is one easy way to do so: compare yourself with others. Comparing yourself with others will only give you two things: either you feel proud when you are above, or you feel jealous and intimidated when you are below. As you can see, both are negative emotions that won't do you any good.

Unfortunately, our culture is full of comparisons. People like to compare themselves with others.

While some people may say that comparing is a way to motivate themselves, I think there is a better way to do that without draining our mental energy. Here it is:

Find a role model and use him as a pacer.

A role model is someone whose quality and achievements you admire. It's no secret that the way to be great is by emulating those who are great. By finding the right role model, you will have concrete example of the qualities you want to achieve. Since those qualities are now tangible, it will be much easier for you to run after them. By selecting the right role model and running after him, you will quickly improve yourself.

Here are some steps to apply this principle:

Stop looking at others' statistics

This is the way to stop comparing yourself with others. I know this is not easy to do since we have the tendency to compare ourselves with others. But, as I've said above, this will only drain your mental energy. So resist the temptation to look at others?statistics for comparison sake.

Look around for someone whom you want to emulate

Instead of comparing, you should find someone you want to emulate. This is perhaps the most difficult step here because it's not easy to find the right role model. Your role model should:

have significant achievements that you want to emulate (in this case, you do need to look at his statistics)

not so far ahead that you can't realistically hope to run after him

have performed well consistently for long time

have other characteristics that are similar to you or your situation

The last point is important. There are perhaps some persons who have the achievements you want, but--looking at their characteristics--they are very different from you. In that case, it will be too difficult and unnatural to emulate them. The more similar their characteristics with yours, the more natural it will be to emulate them.

While you can choose some models to emulate, in my opinion it is better to have only one main role model. Just like having one goal make it easier for you to achieve it, having one main role model make it easier for you to emulate him. Of course, you are unique, so you also need to learn from other models to find the unique combination that fits you, but still, having one main model is helpful.

Look closely at how your role model does things

To emulate your role model, you should find out the details of how he or she does things. Watch your role model closely. Study his work, life, and methods. Try to dissect the traits and actions that make him successful.

Set some actions to take based on your findings

You should then turn your findings into some actions you can take. These are the things you can do to bring you closer to your model's achievements.

Set your role model's current statistics and quality as your target

As I wrote above, your role model acts as a pacer. So set his statistics and quality as your target to run after. Of course, you should not blindly try to match the numbers. Adjust things to match your unique circumstances.

Aim to emulate your role model as quickly as possible

To make sure that you do not just sit down and relax, you should make a decision to run as fast as you can.

Your role model may have been ahead of you when you reach his current level of achievement, but that's fine. The most important thing is you run as fast as you can.


如果你想耗尽你的精神能量,有一个简单的方法:与别人比较。拿自己和别人比较只会给你两件事:要么你感到骄傲,当你在上面,或者你觉得嫉妒和恐吓,当你在下面。正如你所看到的,两者都是负面情绪,对你没有任何好处。
 
不幸的是,我们的文化充满了比较。人们喜欢拿自己和别人比较。
 
虽然有些人可能会说比较是一种激励自己的方式,但我认为有一个更好的方法来做到这一点,而不会耗尽我们的脑力。钱在这儿:
 
找到一个榜样,以他作为起搏器。
 
榜样是你钦佩的品质和成就的人。伟大的方式是模仿伟大的人,这不是什么秘密。通过找到合适的角色模型,你将得到你想要达到的品质的具体例子。既然这些品质现在是有形的,那么你就更容易追求它们了。通过选择合适的榜样并跟随他,你会很快提高自己。
 
下面是应用这个原则的一些步骤:
 
停止看别人的统计数字
 
这是停止与别人攀比的方法。我知道这不容易做到,因为我们有把自己和别人比较的倾向。但是,正如我上面所说,这只会耗尽你的精神能量。那么,抵制诱惑去看别人吧?比较统计。
 
四处寻找你想模仿的人
 
你应该找一个你想效仿的人,而不是比较一下。这可能是这里最困难的一步,因为要找到合适的角色模型并不容易。你的榜样应该:
 
你有什么值得效仿的重大成就(在这种情况下,你需要看看他的统计数字)
 
不远处,你实在不能指望追上他。
 
长期表现良好
 
有与你或你的情况相似的其他特征
 
最后一点很重要。也许有些人拥有你想要的成就,但看看他们的特点,他们与你大不相同。那样的话,模仿它们就太难了,太不自然了。他们与你的特性越相似,模仿他们的自然就越自然。
 
虽然您可以选择一些模型来仿效,但我认为最好只有一个主要的角色模型。就像一个目标让你更容易实现目标一样,有一个主要的榜样让你更容易模仿他。当然,你是独一无二的,所以你还需要从其他模型中学习,找到适合你的独特组合,但是,有一个主要模型是有帮助的。
 
仔细观察你的角色模型是如何做的。
 
要模仿你的榜样,你应该找出他或她做事的细节。密切关注你的榜样。研究他的工作、生活和方法。试着剖析使他成功的特质和行动。
 
根据你的发现设置一些行动
 
然后你应该把你的发现转化为你可以采取的行动。这些都是你能做的事情,使你更接近你的模型的成就。
 
将角色模型的当前统计数据和质量设置为目标
 
如我上面所写,你的榜样作为一个起搏器。所以把他的统计和质量作为你的目标。当然,你不应该盲目地与数字匹配。调整事物以适应你独特的环境。
 
目标是尽可能快地模仿你的榜样。
 
为了确保你不只是坐下来放松,你应该决定尽可能快地跑。
 
当你达到他目前的成就时,你的榜样也许已经超过你了,但这很好。最重要的是你跑得越快越好。
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